Day 17 – 30 Days of Gratitude

November 17, 2020

What do you love about a friend?

Let’s start this off by assuming that it means “…a specific friend” and not, for the sake of argument, “…about having a friend” or similar.

Friendship is a funny relationship when you really think about it. We meet these people randomly, and just…choose…each other. Like kittens in a window. Sometimes they stay in our lives for decades. Sometimes they leave after a much shorter period of time. I’ve always tried to experience my relationships as blessed encounters that are not the work of chance. In that respect, I think we exist to enlighten each other.

My current bullet list of offline friends is exceptionally small, as is the reality of midlife living. And I’ve found over the last handful of years that the idea of a “Best Friend” doesn’t really exist for me anymore. I do however have a varied collection of people who check different boxes for me.

To answer the question: I love the friends who can love me as I am, and who let me love them as they are.

Day 2 – 30 Days of Gratitude

November 2, 2020

Thank Three People for Something They Did

While it’s true I was taught by my grandmother how to knit as a child, I’ve only been knitting for real for about a year. I could occasionally figure out how to cast on over the years, but then I’d have needles sit with that row prime for a half decade or more before I’d slide the stitches off, defeated. I finally figured it out when I was invited to Knit Night & was patiently & excitedly taught — once & for all! — how to knit, and finish a project, by my three caballeras of Christ Church Willard: Lesley, Lori & Sue. 

But much more than teaching me how to put my anxiety into something useful, you each taught me various truths about womanhood, motherhood, love in practice, perseverance, servant leadership, farming, patience, joy, sorrow, and how to live a humbly Christ-like existence. Thank you for the ears, the guidance, and the laughs. I am grateful for you.